Be a Best Friend to yourself and to the ones you love!!
What I miss the most about my father's
presence is our meaningful conversations.
One day when I was just 17 was he
talked to me about marriage.
He told me: 'Sahar remember, if you and
your husband can't be best of friends, you would never experience the
kind of love you expect.'
This statement stayed with me, but
unfortunately I didn't have a chance to experience and fully
understand it. Today as I watch many relationships, I finally
understand what my father meant then.
Most of us Love the other the way we
have been conditioned to know love. We do things as a sign of love
for our children, spouse, parents and all others as we want to be
loved. Very few really care to know the other person well enough to
identify his needs, his pain and conditioning.
And unless we know ourselves well and
are our own very best friend we can never hold a similar space for
our loved ones.
We won't be able to love and care as
the other wishes to be loved and cherished.
We may do a lot and do it well, but it
may not be received well. It's like you bake the most delicious cake
and offer it to a diabetic patient.
It would be hazardous to his health no
matter how well you intended and no matter what an amazing baker you
are.
Unknowingly most of us love without
care! We love based on how we understand love and wish to be cared
for.
My father perhaps could use the most
simple way to explain. Best friends know each other so well that not
much in words needs to be communicated, they care for each other how
the other needs to be cared for in any given situation. Egos have
melted to a great extent and only happiness, quality time and good
will stays.
Love without the element of true care
fades away because love as we perceive it is a mere reflection of
what we desire for ourselves.
Be a best friend to yourself and to the
ones you love instead of wanting to possess them. Don't love with the
need to fill the holes your insecurities have digged into you!
Befriend yourself and your loved ones.
Care for others as per what they need
and not what you assume and you would transform your relationships as
if by magic!
Light and Blessings 🙏🏻🙌🏻
Sahar Gharachorlou LifeCoach
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