Sahar Sukriti Shivam

What I miss the most about my father's presence is our meaningful conversations. One day when I was just 17 was he talked to me about marriage. He told me: 'Sahar remember, if you and your husband can't be best of friends, you would never experience the kind of love you expect.' This statement stayed with me, but unfortunately I didn't have a chance to experience and fully understand it. Today as I watch many relationships, I finally understand what my father meant then. Most of us Love the other the way we have been conditioned to know love. We do things as a sign of love for our children, spouse, parents and all others as we want to be loved. Very few really care to know the other person well enough to identify his needs, his pain and conditioning. And unless we know ourselves well and are our own very best friend we can never hold a similar space for our loved ones. We won't be able to love and care as the other wishes to be ...

I get to meet parents with troubled children/ teenagers. They are constantly worried about the bad behavior/ fears and insecurities of their children. If you want your child to do well, set examples. If you want your child to behave well, set examples. If you don't want your child to be fearful, if you want your child to be confident and be mentally and emotionally stable, find out what in you is causing your child to be / behave in unpleasant ways! Children are the reflection of their parents. You change and they will change too. Sahar Gharachorlou LifeCoach

Inspired to write this after a case of teenage was resolved. I often come across cases of children with anxiety, stress issues, OCD, performance deficiency etc. Unfortunately in India we have a culture of leaving kids with our help at home or sending them to boarding schools at young age of sometimes even 2-3 years of age. How much ever we are worried about their future, we must remember that the future is created from today. If a child is emotionally stable and has been attended by parents, the child would have better emotional quotation which is a lot more important than good grades from a good school. A child's character is shaped by age 7. It is important he feels safe, he is treated like an adult and with respect. It's important that he has been taught the basics right. A child has no Aura till age 7 and lives in the Aura of the mother. When children are made to stay away, they usually carry the feeling of abandonment and rejection which later leads...